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DOMESTIC VIOLENCE: WHEEL OF VIOLENCE INCLUDING
POWER AND CONTROL AND
THE CYCLE OF VIOLENCE
Domestic Violence is not only an Anger Management or Substance Abuse issue. It is about Power and Control. The abuser feels the need and has the desire to control a vulnerable person with power. The abuser may cower when faced with a stronger and more powerful person or situation and uses power to control those who are weaker and more vulnerable. The same tactics are used by gang members and bullies who use insults, intimidation, and physical violence to get what they want. It is important to become familiar with the Wheel of Violence that surrounds power and control.
THE WHEEL OF VIOLENCE
THE CYCLE OF VIOLENCE
According to Lenore, Cycle of Violence may occur many times in an abusive relationship sometimes occurring hundreds of times. As time goes by it gets shorter sometimes going from years between abusive acts to just hours between abusive acts. Lenore Walker authored a book titled "The Battered Woman" published in New York by Harper and Row in 1979.
There are 4 stages to The Cycle of Violence. These are:
1) An incident of abuse
2)The honeymoon period
3)The calm period
4) The tension building period which leads to another incident.
The signs of The Cycle of Violence are:
- Any type of abuse occurs (physical/sexual/emotional)
- may apologize for abuse
- may promise it will never happen again
- may blame the victim for causing the abuse
- may deny abuse took place or say it was not as bad as the victim claims
- acts like the abuse never happened
- Physical abuse may not be taking place
- Promises made during 'making-up' may be met
- may hope that the abuse is over
- may give gifts to victim
The Tension Building
- starts to get angry
- Abuse may begin
- There is a breakdown of communication
- feels the need to keep the abuser calm
- Tension becomes too much
- feels like they are 'walking on eggshells'
As time passes the honeymoon and calm phases shorten and eventually disappear shortening the amount of time between abusive incidents.